So exactly 19 years ago, I came out of my momma at about 6 pounds plus or minus 1 and was introduced to the world. Legend has it that my wee wee was as big as my belly button, but I am quite positive that it is not the case anymore. Throughout the past 19 years, I (and my wee wee) have grown and matured like no other and have had great experiences both good and bad, happy and sad, fun and boring, sunny and pouring…etc. In the previous posts, I have been blabbering in long paragraphs. So for today, I am making multiple lists of miscellaneous things and people who have had an impact in my life thus far. Keep in mind these will be tentative and because of my short term memory, I may forget people so don’t feel left out. Lists are very volatile and will change as the years go on because things will probably change since nothing in the universe is unchanging and according to Barrack Hussein Obama the current president of the great country I live in, change is good.
Things I admire in both guys and girls, things that I look for in people that become my friends etc. Of course good-looks will always help and is a big plus, but I’m not the type that judges people based solely on looks.
1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common. As life gets busier and busier, it gets harder and harder to keep in touch with people who are important to your life, but putting an effort no matter what is going on in life to show your care for others is very respectable. People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give. Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special. While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite. I always try my best to be as selfless as possible. I cherish the selfless people in my life as well, from parents to friends.
2. Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals. All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies. After all, these differences make the world go round. Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships. Basically don’t be too judgemental and always give someone a chance to know them better, you’ll be surprised at how true the cliché “don’t judge a book by its cover” can be.
3. Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial. Feeling comfortable in one’s skin and being true to one’s self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess. To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty…it requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular…it means having the strength to tell it like it is and to not be afraid to face the consequences for doing so…it means loving people for who they really are…deep down…and not for what they appear to be. I believe all my relationships with friends and other people I associate with are quite real, not virtual cuz that would just be sad. Whats more is that they are real not only in person, but deep inside. I hate to say this, but I usually am pretty good at picking out the real from the fake people.
4. Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us. Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected. Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say. Caring is always a good thing. The world needs more love, less hate. This kinda relates to the trait of selflessness, but differs in that sensitive people usually think about what they will say first and embody the special talent of foresight. They usually are pretty good at predicting the equal or opposite reaction of every action, proving Newtons 3rd law of motion holds true everytime.
5. Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find. In a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (dirty celebrities) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (sluts), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today. Real men (and women) will always keep their integrity no matter what the situation is.
6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time. Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too. Humbleness is one of my favorite traits, its when people who don’t flaunt their good stuff. No matter how popular or attractive you are, no matter how much money or friends you have( facebook does not count in my book), no matter how big your genitals are, be humble about it.
7. Smartness/intelligence: Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to be smart, because only being book smart will not help. I mean smart in the sense of having common sense all the time, and thinking about things before you do it, basically being socially smart. This could mean getting along with people very well, not being socially awkward all the time, having smart humour. Of course if you are not that intelligent, I’d understand, but intelligence is a big plus as well, like bonus points.
8. Independentness: Last but not least, I admire and respect people who are independent. This does not mean just because you don’t live with your parents you are independent, because you would still be dependent if they were the ones who bought the house for you and paying for your bills because you are spoiled. Independentness is being no ones female dog, asking for help only when absolutely needed or necessary, relying on oneself whenever possible. This will not only make you more competent, but also not give a chance to people you are dependent on to take advantage of you.
Things I look down upon in people, traits that I wish people would not have, but no one is perfect. After all perfection is perception. I am a pretty accepting person, but if you have a majority(more than 50%) of the traits I’m about to list, then I most likely do not associate with you and do not know you or pretend to not know you, but will still say hi to you. This is basically a list that is almost the complete opposite of the above, and some are derived from Dantes Inferno, except I am not going to do the worst traits in order of circles of hell because it’s not a game.
Things I look down upon in people, traits that I wish people would not have, but no one is perfect. After all perfection is perception. I am a pretty accepting person, but if you have a majority(more than 50%) of the traits I’m about to list, then I most likely do not associate with you and do not know you or pretend to not know you, but will still say hi to you. This is basically a list that is almost the complete opposite of the above, and some are derived from Dantes Inferno, except I am not going to do the worst traits in order of circles of hell because it’s not a game.
1. Obnoxiousness: Basically people who think they are all that. Extremely cocky people who can’t back up their cockiness in the end (Too much talk, not enough game). I despise sore losers. People who flaunt all their assets, people who act more superior than others because they are either richer, smarter, popular, or better-looking, or have a bigger penii ….etc.
2. Hypocrisy: The state of pretending to have beliefs, opinions, virtues, feelings, qualities, or standards that one does not actually have. That is the textbook definition. To further elaborate on hypocrites out there, I’ll give a few specific examples.
· People who think they are humourous just because a couple of people claim it, when they are actually not.
· Losers on facebook: people who act like they have a lot of friends on facebook and fill up everyone’s newsfeed with flashy posts because they are bored while in real life, they are different than what they post and give off the wrong impression and are actually hypocrites.
· People who think they are smarter than they actually are. If you are stupid, just admit it to yourself or not kid yourself, its better for the world and for yourself, and you’ll only make yourself look dumber. and good people usually accept you for who you are, even if you aren’t the brightest in the world.
· To be continued when I am in a bad mood and wanna vent more on the different types of hyprocrites out there
3. Lust: First add some over-obsession. Next add the people who are way too desperate for sex and will lose integrity to get some. Last but not least add the people who try way too hard or do way too much to get someone that’s its almost creeperish and you get lust. Its cute and admirable to make a strong effort, but don’t resort to creepy mode, it will do no good. This includes but is not limited to excessive stalking (both virtual and reality), taking advantage of non-sober people, etc.
4. Drama Queens/Kings: This includes people who sob over the simplest things, or take too long to get over stuff, people who make problems out of the slightest shit. Bad things always happen in life, get over it. I will also include the people who involve way too many other people in situations that only require a minimal amount of involvement + people who cannot keep secrets and spread rumors.
5. Nonactiveness/uninvolvment: People who let small things take over their social life although it does happen to the best of us. People who waste life or don’t take action when needed. People who spend too much time on insignificant things, and don’t get back up quickly after something bad happens. Expecting too much out of everything you do. After all, what you give is what you receive.
6. Greed: Greedy people who are also selfish. Period.
7. Pessimism: Sure its also bad to be too optimistic, but its better to be more optimistic than pessimistic, with the exception of reasoning and rationality being too much for optimism to overcome pessimism. (ex. someones clearly dead with vital signs unintact, but you hope for resurrection, technology these days is not up there yet).
8. Immaturity/dependentness: Which one of the following choices is included in this category?
A .Extremely opinionated people.
B. People dependent on other sources other than themselves, this includes parents, grandparents, relatives, friends, etc. It’s a cruel world, parents and other sources of help will die. Be your own source of help. Help yourself to life.
C. People who can’t deal with anger in a fashionable manner
D. Copycats. People who don’t think for themselves.
E. All of the Above
Answer will be available at the end of the list.
9. Backstabbers: Highly competivive/cutthroat people. Too self-absorbed and unchill people. Life is not a game. Don’t be a traitor. What goes around comes around.
10. Narcissistic people: It is obviously not a good thing to love yourself too much. Basically don’t be gay for yourself. There is a reason there are things called “soul mates” or life partners. You can’t mate your own soul that’s just wrong, and it’s quite sad if you are your only partner, because it means you have no friends. Humans are certainly not asexual organisms, we can’t reproduce by ourselves. We were all born with one out of two reproductive organs and it takes both to carry on your genes. Its basic biology. With that all in mind, you get the point.
If you made it through 80 percent of the list (so at least 8/10 didn't fit you), you are in very good shape. I’m not perfect so I’ll admit im not 100 percent either, but i believe i am in pretty good shape. Just need to work out my biceps more. (By the way the answer to number 8 is letter choice E.)
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You can never really know yourself, you learn more every day. So what people for the past 19 years of my life have had an impact on my life and i'd learned from? I’ll start with family then move on to other people. To me family and friends belong in typically the same category because though friends come and go, the real friends always stick around like family. Again I am probably forgetting a lot of people, this list is tentative.
1. My nuclear family (parents, siblings, grandparents, uncles and aunts, first cousins) is relatively small compared to most families)
· Sister: As noted in my common application college essay, she basically made me a less selfish person in a lot of ways
· Grandparents: From them I learned to appreciate excessive care. Since they took care of me for my first 3/19 years of life, they care alot about me and would go overboard sometimes. Whenever I got back to visit, I get spoiled by them, but I did promise them I would give them half of my paycheck when I get my first real job offer.
· First Cousins: Now my only uncle on my dads side (his older brother and also his only sibling) is divorced, then my aunt on my moms side ( my mom’s older sister) is also divorced. So I have 2/3 first cousins with divorced parents. The last first cousin is a toddler so she hasn’t done much but be the cutest baby cousin one could have. But yeh my two older cousins are both 7 years older than me, and I know that they do not enjoy having a divided family. They both are having trouble getting jobs and dealing with family fueds. But everytime I go back to china, they hangout with me and show me around like surrogate big brothers.
· Parents: sure they care and they have influenced me in so many ways I can’t count (seriously) starting with a lucky sperm cell from my dads family jewels that made it to a haven inside my mom and that then becoming me coming out of my mom’s private part 19 years ago, but I’ve gone through so many early years of their arguing and fighting since I could remember, and I remember they threatened divorce multiple times in my life when I was a kid and my sister was either not born or too young. I’m positive the only reason they have stayed together this long is cuz of me, and later my sis. Sometimes I wonder if they were ever compatible with each other. Maybe they were, until we came along, they do say children screw up everything. Either way, I’ve learned that its very important to balance marriage and children when older, and jobs. I’ve also of course learned other stuff from them along the way but there’s too much to recall at this moment.
2. Yinfei: Probably one of my first friends that I can recall, did a lot of fun stupid stuff back when we were kids living in an awesome apartment neighborhood around the medical center. My childhood was complete partly cuz of our kidmance. Up until middle school started and we moved away, him to katy, while I stayed in Houston, friendship didn’t really change until high school. Hope Austin is treating you well bro.
3. Double T: I’ll always remember how you always had my back in elementary school when people picked on me. I also remember how your hair literally went down to your knees cuz your hair grew faster than you haha jk. Now you’re a bad girl I see, just don’t do anything stupid that you’ll regret.
4. Rockey: Though we didn’t go to the same school for 7 years, we always went to each others birthday parties way back then. Used to always compete to see who would be the pokemon master on our Gameboys. Good times. Guess you were too busy trying to be the very best and catchin all of the pokemon cuz we never talked in high school. Congrats on being the co-valedictorian of BHS, proud of you, hard work always pays-off. Interesting how things work out, we’ll be going to the same school again. Go Big Red.
5. Kai: Aww man we used to ball everyday in middle school in the hood. We even had enough balls to ball with the ghetto streetballers, even though we got dunked on sometimes. Showed me how to be aggressive. Your life was going well until a bad influence came into your life in high school. Still owe me a game of one-on-one basketball, I don’t forget things.
6. Sarah: Apparently I can attract white girls
7. Zee: Sorry for not calling back everytime. Learned since to always keep in contact with people in general no matter.
8. Sophee: it takes more than a bag of skittles and game to please a girl. There is more to a girl other than her boobs. The love of my life.
9. Jenny: one of the only girls I can think of atm that I know will always have my back no matter what
10. Kevin: If I ever had a brother, it would be him
11. Matt: My spiritual brother. Always calm, quiet, and most moral person i know. Thanks for taking the time this summer to help me with my internal troubles and dedicating a couple of hours of your time each week to read the bible to me and translating the meanings of the word, attempting to help me become a better person spiritually.
12. Vivek: One of the hardest workers I know. Showed me how even when you try your best and the outcome isn’t what you expect, just keep working. We got this.
13. Elizabeth: It never hurts to be nice, no matter how nice you already are.
14. DKE Brotherhood: Kerothen Philoi Aei
15. Your friends can lead you down any path, but you choose where you end up.
Miscellaneous/Idols
1. Brian Lo: refer to the previous post
2. Logan Wilson: “No matter where you go or what you do, I believe you will be fine if you just be yourself.”
3. Alan Thompson: “Don't let pushing yourself become an obsession or a lie.”
4. Michael Phelps: You can achieve greatness, you can achieve anything, , if you set your mind to it.
5. Steve Francis: “What if's only lead to questioning the now. I'm grateful for what I have” after retiring from the Houston rockets because of injury and wanting to spend time with his family after being the cornerstone of the franchise for his first 5 years.
6. Lebron James: No matter how good you are, you can only get better.
Okay, that is all I have time for now. I’d just like to add that I’m quite grateful to be alive, and looking forward to the upcoming years and where life takes me and what life brings me. Yeah baby!
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